Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Get By With a Little Help...

For a grown up like myself, there are lots of figurative giants out in the world- the economy, a mortgage, saving for retirement, college funds, your firstborn heading to kindergarten.

When you are two, there are literal giants- like the big slide on the playground.

Here you stand, 30 inches tall and this behemoth, yellow, curly slide looms over you. It is a literal Colossus at age 2. It may have well been a skyscraper to Hope's little eyes.

I watched something quite beautiful transpire between my kids at the park.

Hope climbed all the way to the top of the jungle gym and looked at me from the top of the slide. I shouted encouragements and promises to catch her from the ground that must have seemed miles away below her. And she climbed her way to the safety of a lower ledge. It wasn't enough for her this time that Momma was there waiting. It was still too risky.

Isaac, a seasoned playground veteran, watched his sister struggle. He slowed down, climbed the where she was and put his hand on the small of her back. He leaned down, like an adult talks to a child and talked to her. He said, "Sis, don't be scared to go down the big slide. It's not scary."

He lead her to the top of the slide, where she stopped, still not quite convinced. Isaac said, "Sissy, you can watch me do it." He slid down and yelled from the bottom, "See sis, I'm a big boy."

She hesitated at the top as Isaac climbed his way back up. He looked at her and said, "C'mon sis, we can do it together."

He patiently helped her sit down and folded his arms and legs around her and helped her slide down. They hit the bottom and he cheered for her, calling her a big girl. She beamed at the praise from her hero. I cheered too, through the tears under my sunglasses and the giant lump in my throat.

They aren't always sweet and encouraging to each other, quite the opposite sometimes, but I hope that long after their Daddy and I are gone that they still love each other, and encourage the other through their fears. It was one of those moments that this Momma never wants to forget.

My cup runneth over.

Even on their sweet days, they still don't pose for Mom's camera.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Expectations vs. Reality- Why ALL-STAR MOVERS are dead to me

Before you proceed:

1) I usually like to be positive, light, funny, and ironic. This post is a little on the mean and negative side. OK, a lot on the mean and negative side.

2) If you ever think about messing with my little brother I WILL DESTROY YOU. You were warned......

In my little corner of Mindyville there are certain expectations that I have. And when those expectations go unmet it can cause an emotional response from me. Not always, but sometimes.

For instance, I expect that when I turn on a faucet, water will come out. I expect that flipping a light switch will cause a dark room to be filled with light. I expect that when I pay for a job to be completed that it will be completed within the time frame and parameters that I have discussed with the helpers I have hired.

This weekend I planned to help my baby brother move from OKC to his new town of San Antonio Texas.

Here is how it went down:

1. Expectation: That ALL-STAR MOVERS (yes, I am being tacky and using the moving company name because I don't ever want anyone I love to go through an experience like my brother went through.) would show up in OKC and have the tools and materials required to complete the task.

Reality: Two men; One very kind & hard working. The other in SANDALS, very bossy, lazy, and rude- showed up to move his stuff. My family and I ended up moving much of his stuff into the truck and having to take furniture apart (ALL-STAR MOVER'S job!) because Mr. Sandals had NO tools with him.

2) Expectation 2: ALL-STAR MOVERS were supposed to drop his possessions off in San Antonio at noon the following day as stated in the contract and verbally reinforced by the movers. My parents and I had taken off of work and other commitments we were planning on unloading & unpacking yesterday and today and coming home on Monday. All plans were centered & dependent on ALL-STAR MOVERS doing what they said they would do.

Reality: After a very early morning to reach San Antonio at the time specified for drop off by ALL-STAR MOVERS, and many unsuccessful attempts to reach the movers or even a customer service representative for ALL-STAR MOVERS by phone, my baby brother received a call 2 hours after the agreed upon drop off time telling him that his possessions were somewhere in Dallas and would not be dropped off until Monday. Monday! The day all of my brother's help in this move was scheduled to leave.

This was obviously the worst news possible when you are moving 9 hours from your old home and had only packed an overnight bag because your expectation was that all you own (including the contents of your closet and your underwear!) were promised less than 24 hours later.

If you can't tell yet, ALL-STAR MOVERS are dead to me. They screwed with my baby brother, and I hate them. Yes, I have had my emotional response to my expectations not being met.

But lucky for the incompetent, rude, unprofessional, and all around disappointing hacks at ALL-STAR MOVERS, the Harmons are decent people. We restrained ourselves from assembling mail bombs and decided to make the most of our time together.

We had a lovely, perfect, San Antonio evening together eating Mexican food on the river walk and seeing the Alamo together. Even the incompetence of ALL-STAR MOVERS cannot squash the joy from my parents and brother. We are a fun group.

Today we (my parents and I) are headed home, a little sad that we were robbed by ALL-STAR MOVERS of our time, money from our jobs, and the opportunity to help my brother unpack from his new town.

My hope is that many people will search for ALL-STAR MOVERS, and their search engine will bring them to my humble little blog and they will promptly decide never ever to use this horrendous company and thusly know that their expectations if what they will be getting will sadly not be reality.

Thursday, November 1, 2012

30 Days I'd Like to Re-Live

Please note that I didn't say 30 days I'd like to go back and change. The older that I become, the more I realize the fragile nature and unreliability of memory. And because of that, there are days I wish I could go back & visit- like watching a movie for a second time. You always see things in more detail the second time. And having lived so much life since these days my life experiences have made the memory of these days so much more precious. These are my choices. 

30. The day my brother was born. I was only 3 but I wonder what I thought and felt that day. 
29.The day I received the PLC scholarship at UCO. Life changer. 
28. Any day from my trip to Disney World. 
27. Any day where I used to be a size 6. 
26. Any Friday night I spent in the sidelines as a high-school cheerleader. 
25.The day I moved away from my parents. 
24. A day from one of my summers in Grove at my grandparents lake house. 
23. The first time Ryland kissed me. 
22. Any of the nights I spent in my grandparents' Barnsdall homeplaces.
21. My 16th birthday. 
20. A lazy summer day poolside with my family as a teenager. 
19.Any night where my babies were tiny enough to sleep all night on my chest. 
18.A day from my time as an RA working for my friend Steph. 
17.A day from Energy Camp where I met my Morgan. 
16.Any Miriam adventure from any decade. 
15.Any Falls Creek day from my teen years. 
14. The day Ryland proposed to me over a picnic at Birch Lake.
13.Any Christmas Eve/Day of my childhood. I am so homesick for the magic of those sweet days. 
12.The days that my kids said their first words and walked for the first time. 
11. Graduations- high school & college. 
10.The first time I saw the ocean in junior high. 
9.Any post-football game cruising session with Aubrey and Charity in the Merc. 
8. The first time I ever sang in church. It took so much courage. Still makes me a nervous wreck. 
7.The day after fall finals at college- any year. What feels better than Christmas break at home during college? 
6. My first day as a teacher in 2005. 
5.Any of the days of my honeymoon in Jamaica. 
4.The days I found out I was expecting my kids- June 13, 2008 and February 6, 2010. 
3.The days my children were born. 
2. My wedding day. 
1.  The day that Jesus became more than a story, he became mine. The most important day. I'm so thankful for this. It truly gives meaning & purpose to all the other days. I hope each of you have experienced this "day" in your life. 

What day would you like to re-live?